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Title
Why love hurts
Type
Text
Monograph
Contribution
Illouz, Eva, 1961- ([author])
Subject
Love--Psychological aspects (LCSH)
Love--Social aspects (LCSH)
Interpersonal relations--Psychological aspects (LCSH)
Man-woman relationships--Psychological aspects (LCSH)
Mate selection--Psychological aspects (LCSH)
Sufrimiento--Aspectos psicológicos
Amor--Aspectos psicológicos
Sexualidad y amor
Interpersonal relations--Psychological aspects (FAST)
Love--Psychological aspects (FAST)
Love--Social aspects (FAST)
Man-woman relationships--Psychological aspects (FAST)
Mate selection--Psychological aspects (FAST)
Liefde (GTT)
Sociologische aspecten (GTT)
Kärlek--psykologiska aspekter (SAO)
Kärlek--sociala aspekter (SAO)
Language
English
Classification
DDC: 152.4/1 full (Source: 23)
LCC: BF575.L8 I45 2012 (Assigner: dlc) (Status: used by assigner)
Supplementary Content
bibliography
index
Content
text
Summary
Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose of this book is to change our way of thinking about what is wrong in modern relationships. The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love. The argument of this book is that the modern romantic experience is shaped by a fundamental transformation in the ecology and architecture of romantic choice. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: all these aspects of choice have transformed the very core of the will, how we want a partner, the sense of worth bestowed by relationships, and the organization of desire. This book does to love what Marx did to commodities: it shows that it is shaped by social relations and institutions and that it circulates in a marketplace of unequal actors. -- Publisher description.
Table Of Contents
The misery of love
The great transformation of love or the emergence of marriage markets
Commitment phobia and the new architecture of romantic choice (with Mattan Shachak)
The demand for recognition: love and the vulnerability of the self
Love, reason, irony
From romantic fantasy to disappointment.
Authorized Access Point
Illouz, Eva, 1961- Why love hurts
Admin Metadata
Generation Process: DLC marc2bibframe2 v2.5.0
Status: changed
Encoding Level: full
Identified By: bf:Local, 18031464 bf:Local, 016035181
Change Date: 2017-04-07T13:54:42
Creation Date: 2014-02-05
Description Language: English
Description Modifier: United States, Library of Congress
Description Authentication: LC Copy Cataloging
Assigner: BTCTA